Am I making the wrong decision??

[MyTrixie143]

I have made a hard decision but I think it is what is best. I have decided to sell Poptart.:( Me and my mom both agree it is what is best for him. He really isn't happy here. He needs a home where he is either the only dog or one other dog at most. All of the other dogs are happy and love it here and we are just one big happy family and they wouldn't want it any other way. But Poptart doesn't feel that way. He wants to be the only dog or with a family that only has one other dog for a playmate. If I keep him, I feel like I am being selfish because I can see that he isn't happy living in a home full of dogs. Even though he is spoiled rotten and gets lots of attention, it just isn't enough for him. I don't understand why he is this way just that it is his personality and he has been like this from day one.

I really want him to be happy, he deserves it. He is a lap dog and needs to go to a home where his is the center of attention or at most one other dog to play with.

I feel like I am a bad person to be doing this.
Do you think I am making the wrong decision?? I just want him to be happy.

[Terrible2some]

I personally don't think you are wrong. This is your dog. You know him better than the rest of us. If you think its in his best interest to find him a family that is better suited for him then do so. Maybe a older couple would be better than a younger family. They would treat him like thier child rather than a pet. Just a suggestion.

[I Found Nemo]

:( Im sorry .I would never judge your decison, who am I or anyone else to do that. Only you know what is best for PopTart, only you. What you will find from us is support:)
I wish you alot of luck,
Andrea:hug:

[Malteseluv]

Everyone's right...Only you know what is best for PopTart, and if you feel he is better off somewhere that he can be an only furbaby, then it's okay. As long as you know the home he's going to will be what makes him happy for the rest of his life. How old is he? He's such a cutie :)

[Morkie4]

It's only a decision you can make..........you are living the situation!! If you feel you can part with him and he NEEDS a different living arrangement then you should think of what is best for Poptart so he will live a long and happy life. Hope you can find him a good home wherer he will be forever happy!:)

[Chloeandj]

I hope you do what is right for you all. ((Hugs)) It's a huge decision. The only bit of advice I can give, is make sure you search for the best family for him (and I know you will) so he won't be rehomed again. We are Gizmo's 3rd home and one little dog shouldn't go through that much.

[Ashley V]

Actually, I think what you are doing for Poptart is commendable... I'll admit, I could never rehome a dog... I just couldn't. It is a very hard decision, but it's obvious that you love him enough that you want to give him to someone who has exactly what he needs. It will be hard to let go... good luck!

[MyTrixie143]

Thank you everyone, this is why I love this site!! I could hug you all!!
I happened to post this on another site and didn't get back the same thing. In fact I was judged pretty harshly by one member and just made me feel like a horrible person who was incredibly irresponsible.

I only want what is best for Poptart. His personality is best suited for a small family with one or no other dogs. An older family with no small kids and quiet lifestyle would be perfect for him. Sadly his personality is not suited for my life style and I can not change his personality nor would I want to as he has a great personality.

Some suggested to give him to a shelter or maltese rescue. I could never do that. I don't want him waiting in some shelter until he finds his new home. Any potential owners will be carefully screened and must meet specific requirements. I would do my best to make sure he found the perfect home as no dog deserves to be bounced from one family to another until they find their perfect home.

Oh and I think the term selling wasn't the best to use. I will only ask for a small adoption fee that will cover the costs of his shots and for his neutering. Money is not the object, him having finding the perfect family is.

Again, thank you everyone for your support, you have no idea how much it means to me!! This is what sets SM apart from any other forum, I love all you guys!!

[Terrible2some]

Some people are judgemental because they feel the need to be superior over others when they really aren't. Don't allow that to bother you. Ignore it. I do. I'm on that 'other site' as well and I've had to ignore a few people. Don't allow them to spoil it for you. Step other thier replies like you do debris on a street. :D

[Malteseluv]

I read what some of those people said too. I'm sorry that they made you feel so badly also...

[KMitchell]

You and only you know what is best for little poptart! Good luck in finding the perfect home. I know how difficult this must be for you! But I can tell that you really do love poptart and want only what is best for him.

[I Found Nemo]

:( Im sorry you feel bad! Just focus on Poptart and yourself, everyone else really doesn't matter!!! Please please let us know every step of the way!!
Good Luck,
Andrea~:)

[jazzysmom]

When you live with a dog 24-7 you really get to know & understand it and I feel you know what is best for Poptart and you will do what is right for him. I had to re-home a cocker once that I had raised from a pup and it was one of the hardest things I have ever done but she is in a good loving home and that was what was best for her. Good luck to you and Poptart I will keep you both in my prayers keep us posted on the developments.

[jazzysmom]

:( Im sorry you feel bad! Just focus on Poptart and yourself, everyone else really doesn't matter!!! Please please let us know every step of the way!!
Good Luck,
Andrea~:)


I love this picture of Nemo! He is just adorable.

[I Found Nemo]

I love this picture of Nemo! He is just adorable.

:p Thanks Belinda.... Thanks alot!:hug:

[Im26]

i think only u can make the best judgement
and if u feel poptart should go to a home that is better suited for him then i applaud you for not being greedy and selfish but applaud you for giving him to a better home where he will be comfortable and happy

good luck honey :)

[I Found Nemo]

How is it working out? Did you find a home for him yet? Please keep us updated
Good Luck,
Andrea:) :goodluck:

[MaxJack'sMom]

Any update yet on Poptart? Please let us know what's going on with your search for a new home. Hope all is well.

[Im26]

When you live with a dog 24-7 you really get to know & understand it and I feel you know what is best for Poptart and you will do what is right for him. I had to re-home a cocker once that I had raised from a pup and it was one of the hardest things I have ever done but she is in a good loving home and that was what was best for her. Good luck to you and Poptart I will keep you both in my prayers keep us posted on the developments.


i agree 101%

[MyTrixie143]

I don't want to start anything, all I wanted was some support and I got that and I appreciate every ones suggestions.
For the record, I had no problems with anyone suggesting rescue. Rescue is really great and full of wonderful people who dedicate their time because they really care. I was not offended in them suggesting rescue. Nowhere did I say I was offended about rescue. If anyone wanted to know what I took offense to and who, they should pm me rather than assuming something and getting it all wrong.
I just don't want to put him rescue. Why?? It is not that rescue is a bad thing, as I said before I support rescue. I just don't want Poptart going to the rescue where he knows no one and it would be scary for him, until they found yet his new home to put him in. I am not sure if I explained that right. I wanted him to stay here, with familar surroundings, familar people, etc until he found his new home. I was in no hurry to find him a home as I wasn't looking for any home for him but the perfect one for him.

I think this was just a big misunderstanding and I am sorry for things that got assumed and I am truly sorry if I caused any misunderstanding.
I hope we can all get past this misunderstanding and move on.:)

[I Found Nemo]

I don't want to start anything, all I wanted was some support and I got that and I appreciate every ones suggestions.
For the record, I had no problems with anyone suggesting rescue. Rescue is really great and full of wonderful people who dedicate their time because they really care. I was not offended in them suggesting rescue. Nowhere did I say I was offended about rescue. If anyone wanted to know what I took offense to and who, they should pm me rather than assuming something and getting it all wrong.
I just don't want to put him rescue. Why?? It is not that rescue is a bad thing, as I said before I support rescue. I just don't want Poptart going to the rescue where he knows no one and it would be scary for him, until they found yet his new home to put him in. I am not sure if I explained that right. I wanted him to stay here, with familar surroundings, familar people, etc until he found his new home. I was in no hurry to find him a home as I wasn't looking for any home for him but the perfect one for him.

I think this was just a big misunderstanding and I am sorry for things that got assumed and I am truly sorry if I caused any misunderstanding.
I hope we can all get past this misunderstanding and move on.:)

You didn't cause a misunderstanding at all.. You have your reasons for whatever you do concerning Poptart and it's nobody's business but yours...
Andrea:)

[lilybellesmom]

I don't want to start anything, all I wanted was some support and I got that and I appreciate every ones suggestions.
For the record, I had no problems with anyone suggesting rescue. Rescue is really great and full of wonderful people who dedicate their time because they really care. I was not offended in them suggesting rescue. Nowhere did I say I was offended about rescue. If anyone wanted to know what I took offense to and who, they should pm me rather than assuming something and getting it all wrong.
I just don't want to put him rescue. Why?? It is not that rescue is a bad thing, as I said before I support rescue. I just don't want Poptart going to the rescue where he knows no one and it would be scary for him, until they found yet his new home to put him in. I am not sure if I explained that right. I wanted him to stay here, with familar surroundings, familar people, etc until he found his new home. I was in no hurry to find him a home as I wasn't looking for any home for him but the perfect one for him.

I think this was just a big misunderstanding and I am sorry for things that got assumed and I am truly sorry if I caused any misunderstanding.
I hope we can all get past this misunderstanding and move on.:)

I think you did what was best for Poptart and the situation. You have my support:hug: .

[Morkie4]

I've been down that road of rehoming as we discussed in a PM before so I know how you feel about finding the "special" home for him. I was so happy when I was able to "pick" the home and know that she would be safe forever and happy forever!!! You take your time and find that special home for your "Poptart.":)

[Malteseluv]

I knew what you were trying to say too :) You just didn't want him in a strange environment where he would be scared...Plus, you're providing a loving home for him so why send him somewhere else where he doesn't know anyone while he waits for another home.