Ivf

[bek74]

As most of you know, I am a mother of Three Beautiful young boys. They are the light of my life and I love them ever so much.

After I had my Third son, I had my tubes done ( got spayed, lol), I so didn't want to keep having babies trying for a girl and end up with a football team of boys. I so very badly wanted a little girl and I still do. I always said if I won lotto my the time I turn 35yr I will have my little girl.

When I turned 33yr just 2wks ago, it hit home, I need to do something, I really want a daughter. I have done some search on the net and found that I can do this, it is affordable. I always thought it would be thousands and thousands and it isn't.

I have decided to go and visit my GP ( local family doctor) and ask him for a referral to go and see the IVF clinic. I plan on doing this shortly after my kids start back at school ( Jan 29th). I need to look into it, I need to know if this is possible for me.

I told 2 girlfriends of mine who know me very well and one just said I am stupid, get over it, be thankful for what I have etc etc. My other girlfriend said " If Dave is at work and can't be there, I will :smlove2: " she knows how much I want this and how important it is to me.

My hubby said I have his support 100% and if this is what I want, then it is what he wants:smlove2: .

I don't want to get my hopes up, I don't want to get excited etc etc etc, just yet, not until I know I can do it, not until it has taken, not until they say " Your pregnant" ( with a daughter of course).
I just thought I would share with all of you, what I am looking into, and of course will keep you all updated.

Thanks for reading this long post.

luv to all

[maltesemum]

Oh Bek:( i say go for it.:cry2: :cry2:

you only live your life once & in that small amount of time we have to try & fullfill all our dreams big & small:hug: :hug:

Good luck my dear friend:D & i hope & pray that all your wishes come true;)

[Gregswife]

Bek, if your heart yearns for a daughter, than I say go for it. While it is no guarantee that it will be a girl, you should follow your heart. I have always regretted not having more as I too have always wanted a daughter. I remember telling Greg a few years ago that I felt bad that he would neevr be the father of the bride, never get to walk a daughter down the aisle. he said he was perfectly happy with the family we had and never felt slighted in the least, but I personally know the feeling that something is missing. Good luck to you - and as to the friend who said you were being stupid - doesn't sound like she thought very much of how you felt. Feel fortunate that you have the friend who says she will be with you all the way...

[Morkie4]

I have a daughter and two sons..............she was my firstborn. My husband's grandfather wanted a boy so badly.........really badly...........he had nine girls and number 10 was a boy! Got his boy........his poor wife! LOL But if you want a girl and you can afford it, why not? I had my last son at 31years old and do no regret it! It's your life and your decision but glad you felt comfortable enough to include us.......so sweet of you!:smlove2:

[dogloverx4]

I don't think it's wrong to want a daughter . I'm a VERY girly girl , if I only have boys I'll cry . I wouldn't mind adopting either . Actually I would be happy either way if the baby was healthy ( but I still want a girl ) . Sarah

[MaxJack'sMom]

If you really feel that you and your family can do this, then by all means do it. Life is too short and if you're healthy and the doctors can help you--God bless you.

[bek74]

Thankyou all so much for your support. I had heard that they can tell the difference between the boys and girls and that you have the option to request or just pot luck.
I will be making my appointments to talk to my GP in the next couple of weeks and with some luck be able to speak to someone at the IVF clinic by Mid Feb early March.
I really really want this and I hope it all works out for me, if not I do take comfort in the fact that I was blessed with three handsome young boys ( BUT I WANT A GIRL, LOL)
Shall keep you all posted as I find out things.
Again thankyou for your kind words.

Hugs

[lilybellesmom]

Bek, good luck to you! I think if you are healthy and financially stable then do it!

[I Found Nemo]

:D I would go for it.. I really would but I am going to be 37 in June and I can't raise kids no more, Im done!!:D
But I will cheer you on.. I hope it all works out you so deserve it..

xoxo ANDREA~

[Kanga]

I agree with everyone Bek.
Better to have tried than die wondering and having regrets. If all else fails just hope your sons all marry wonderful girls so that you can have not one but 3 daughters to love :D

[Jadey]

OMG BEK!!!
I cheer for you and wish you the best of luck!!!
my mother had 3 girls and my father wanted a boy so badly they lucky
our youngest is a boy he is a senior in highschool FREAKING FINALLY!
i am so glad he will be going to college in august of 2007
my parents and i are counting the days! :bleh:
the reason why i say this... he is always like "yah whatever"
drives my folks and me NUTS!
atleast me and my sisters will be like YES OR NO and do what we got to do but he's the boy and baby of the house and drives me nuts when he should be studying for his SAT's but he's playing FinalFantasy on his PS2

not only that we have a 62" tv that i love to watch law n order
but since he's the babyboy of the house... my parents let him do whatever he wants so he's always playing games on it.
the boy is retarded!!!
he drives me NUTS sometimes
yeah sorry had to vent!
yesterday i wanted something sweet told him to go drive my car to the store he said "i cant drive at night"
but he stays out all night on weekends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

sorry had to vent!!!

but yes BEK baby girls rawr!
wish you and your family all the luck :hug:

[bek74]

Ok all, I went to my GP today to find out my options. It turns out my tubes aren't cut and tied, they are clamped with Filshie clips. Now they don't damage your tubes and there is a high reversal rate.
My GP thinks that is my better option, as IVF can be draining on the body, expensive and can take several attempts to conceive, and even if you do conceive that doesn't mean you will have a baby at the end ( miscarriage).
However if I do go down that path ( reversal), it will cost alot more money as it isn't on our medicare for a rebate and health insurance won't cover it. My GP is looking into finding a private doctor but use public hospital, so will find out more about that later.
I also will be back to square one, with the risk of having another boy. I have been online looking at gender selection and when it is best to conceive a girl or boy and the diet you should be on etc etc.
I must say I am nervous, but I so want a girl, so if I decide to go through with the reversal ( can afford it) and it comes time to conceive you will all know cause you will all be praying at the same time I am trying to conceive, LOL.
Anyway thought I would keep you updated and would be interested in your thoughts and opinions.

[Kanga]

Awww Bek, I hope it all goes well for you.

This baby is going to have a LOT of aunties :haha: :haha:

[bek74]

This is what a Filshie Clip looks like, it lightly clamps your tubes together so it won't damage your tubes.

Thought you may want to see what one looks like.

Thankyou all for your kind words and support. I am very nervous yet excited at the same time. I am praying this all works out. I said to my hubby, the fact my tubes weren't cut and tied (as I thought) seems like a positive sign, I just hope I can get the operation and at a reasonable price.

Please everyone, pray that this will work out for me, I really want this ( yet scared to death at the same time)

Hugs

[bek74]

Awww Bek, I hope it all goes well for you.

This baby is going to have a LOT of aunties :haha: :haha:


Oh wow, how cool, I will have to post monthly pics of my growing belly and Ultra sound pics ( lets hope they will be of a girl)

See getting myself excited "slap slap slap slap" Ok back to reality now.

Hugs

[maltesemum]

Aww Bek, i really do pray that all goes well for you & hubby:big_hug:

& there must be loads of stuff to help the influence factor, the male decides the sex of a baby. What is more common in his side of the family?

[I Found Nemo]

Aww Bek, i really do pray that all goes well for you & hubby:big_hug:

& there must be loads of stuff to help the influence factor, the male decides the sex of a baby. What is more common in his side of the family?
:p Yes thats true..I have three sons and my Sister-in-law to has 3 sons, and her sister-in-law has three sons!!!:( I love my boys though
I know I am going to have all Grand-daughters!!:D :smlove2:

[bek74]

Ok, It is now 1:30am and I can't sleep. I am so worried, what if my GP can't find a private doctor to go to a public hospital???, If I had to go private doctor and private hospital that would cost me around $8000 and that I can't afford. I am really worried, I can't sleep.
As to the male who determines the sex, well yes they carry the Y and X gene but it also depends alot on a womens Alkaline and acidic levels. Acidic levels slow down the Y sperm increasing the chances of a girl and the Alkaline levels increase your chances of a boy. You can test your levels and also change your diet to help with either level, so as much as I would like to blame hubby for not yet having a daughter, I have to look at myself also.

Anyway justed needed to vent my fears and worries at now 1:45am

Thankyou

[I Found Nemo]

Ok, It is now 1:30am and I can't sleep. I am so worried, what if my GP can't find a private doctor to go to a public hospital???, If I had to go private doctor and private hospital that would cost me around $8000 and that I can't afford. I am really worried, I can't sleep.
As to the male who determines the sex, well yes they carry the Y and X gene but it also depends alot on a womens Alkaline and acidic levels. Acidic levels slow down the Y sperm increasing the chances of a girl and the Alkaline levels increase your chances of a boy. You can test your levels and also change your diet to help with either level, so as much as I would like to blame hubby for not yet having a daughter, I have to look at myself also.

Anyway justed needed to vent my fears and worries at now 1:45am

Thankyou
:( Dont worry Bek, just vent on us.. I really dont know anything about all this so I am no help, but im your friend and I am here for ya mate..
xoxoxo and u will get ur girl:smlove2:

[Morkie4]

Just keep thinking positive! Nothing easy about it......but just keep thinkingn positive!:)

[maltesemum]

Bek, you have to eat everything & anything that is acidic then:D what food stuff has lots of acid???? Fruit? is it??? Vinegar, yes lots & lots of pickles:tongue6: i luv pickles, do you like them?

You are anxious & i understand:( come here:hugs2: :big_hug: :grouphug: :bighug: :hug: :lovehug3: :justahug:

[Kanga]

Good old Aussie tomato sauce on everything Bek :D

Got to stop those little boys from outswimming the girls :haha: :haha:

This is fun .... hopefully our first baby for MT and we are all in on the ground floor so to speak :rolleyes: :laugh: :laugh:

[bek74]

Ok Ladies, I have rung my Gynecologist that clamped my tubes and I have an appointment with him on Tuesday 23rd January at 2:30pm to find out whether he can reverse it and how much it will cost.
So please fingers crossed and pray for good news for me.
Will keep you updated.
:crossfin: :crossfin: :hands: :hands:

[maltesemum]

Ok Ladies, I have rung my Gynecologist that clamped my tubes and I have an appointment with him on Tuesday 23rd January at 2:30pm to find out whether he can reverse it and how much it will cost.
So please fingers crossed and pray for good news for me.
Will keep you updated.
:crossfin: :crossfin: :hands: :hands:

Oh i have everything crossed for you:big_hug:

[lilybellesmom]

Good luck Bek, we're praying for you!

[Kanga]

Goodluck Bek. I am sure it will go well. :lovehug3:

[I Found Nemo]

Ok Ladies, I have rung my Gynecologist that clamped my tubes and I have an appointment with him on Tuesday 23rd January at 2:30pm to find out whether he can reverse it and how much it will cost.
So please fingers crossed and pray for good news for me.
Will keep you updated.
:crossfin: :crossfin: :hands: :hands:
AWW Bek,
I will be praying for you and Sammy ..I know all will go well..I can't wait till you post the results... Your in my thoughts..
Love Ya Mate!!

ANDREA~

[MaxJack'sMom]

Good luck with your Dr.'s appt. You do realize that your little girl will have a lot of Godmother's!!! She will be spoiled rotten.