Have you ever?

[Miss Melanie]

I was given an invatation to a Baby Shower today. It says:

"You are cordially invited to
A Baby Shower & Brunch
Sunday, October Twelfth
Two Thousand And Eight
Eleven Thirty A.M.
Lighthouse Point Yacht Club

Lunch $28.00 per person

RSVP: _____________
____________________
____________________

Baby is registered at
BabyLove.com and Babies R' Us"

I LEFT OUT the names to "protect" the people. :lol2:

PLEASE BE HONEST and tell me, have you EVER gotten an invatation and been asked to pay for your meal? This is totally new to me and I was stunned to say the least.

If you did get one, did you attend the event or not?

I am not sure I "belong" in today's new world.

Melanie

[LilPosh]

I have never heard of that either!

I would attend if it was someone who I was really close to. I may not attend otherwise. I guess it would just depend on who it was.

[Tcarnagie]

Yes, I have and I would attend if it was a close friend or family member. I don't think I agree with it but times are changing and the cost of everything is getting up there. It is nice of them to let you know up front instead of getting there and you finding out then.

[Miss Melanie]

I have never heard of that either!

I would attend if it was someone who I was really close to. I may not attend otherwise. I guess it would just depend on who it was.


HOLY cows you are FAST!

:lol2:
Melanie

[mia's mom]

I have received invites like this but they are usually from young just starting out friends and family. Last one I went to was a friend of my daughters that had one in a restaurant (Rusty Pelican) and begged me to go. Would I do it no. But hey whatever!

[omega]

<<I am not sure I "belong" in today's new world.>>

Me and you both.:D

X-Treme tacky was when a bride (my friend) and groom sent all their thank yous via e-mail. :eek: I was actually shocked at that one and it takes a LOT to shock me.:lol2:

[Tcarnagie]

I agree that it is very tacky and the one I got was from a younger couple, maybe it is the new thing??

[plumie]

I agree with everyone else.. its very tacky.
I will only attend it if only its a close familys and friends, but they will hard from me how tacky they are.


sorry off topic.. but another think I find to be tacky is when they invite you to bridal/baby shower and ask everyone to bring foods. That whats been going around at my work place.

[gypsyqueen]

If you cant afford a party dont have one or have something at home or last resort pot luck but to have a lunch at 28.00 per person expecting your guest to pay and buy a gift at a certain place ha champange taste beer budget I would not attend they want no work no exspence but nice party and great gifts HA.

[omega]

ok - has anyone ever heard of the immediate family giving their own benefit after someone dies in their family? Then they don't even say if it is for any particular thing?:confused::confused:

[Tcarnagie]

ok - has anyone ever heard of the immediate family giving their own benefit after someone dies in their family? Then they don't even say if it is for any particular thing?:confused::confused:

Never heard of that one.

[Morkie4]

Nope, never received one like that but would go if it was a family member or close friend .......... but if it was just a "nobody"...........wouldn't go at that price "and" bring a gift! What happened to the "old fashion" way of doing things????

[Miss Melanie]

Nope, never received one like that but would go if it was a family member or close friend .......... but if it was just a "nobody"...........wouldn't go at that price "and" bring a gift! What happened to the "old fashion" way of doing things????

I am TRYING TO FIND OUT!

Melanie

[Morkie4]

Nope, never received one like that but would go if it was a family member or close friend .......... but if it was just a "nobody"...........wouldn't go at that price "and" bring a gift! What happened to the "old fashion" way of doing things????

I am TRYING TO FIND OUT!

Melanie

:lol2::lol2::lol2::lol2::lol2:Well, when you do, please let me know!:tounge:

[omega]

Nope, never received one like that but would go if it was a family member or close friend .......... but if it was just a "nobody"...........wouldn't go at that price "and" bring a gift! What happened to the "old fashion" way of doing things????

"just a nobody?" :lol2::lol2::lol2:

I think the good ol' fashion way of doing things is dying off as our generation is..... :(

[Angel's Mom]

Why, I remember back in the Olden days, we used to have cupcakes decorated green & yellow (because we didn't know if it was going to be a girl or boy), played all kinds of (dorky) games, won wonderful baby stuff as prizes & only had to pay for the gift we took.

[mia's mom]

Nope, never received one like that but would go if it was a family member or close friend .......... but if it was just a "nobody"...........wouldn't go at that price "and"

Oh Carol I forgot to tell you I am inviting you over to my house but the dinner attendance will cost you $3,200 just make the check payable to Tammy Simon.;)

[omega]

Why, I remember back in the Olden days, we used to have cupcakes decorated green & yellow (because we didn't know if it was going to be a girl or boy), played all kinds of (dorky) games, won wonderful baby stuff as prizes & only had to pay for the gift we took.

I DID enjoy those days...it was fun to have the shower when the woman was still pregnant and didn't know the sex of the baby. Those dorky games were kind of fun, weren't they?:)

[tmt90]

"just a nobody?" :lol2::lol2::lol2:

I think the good ol' fashion way of doing things is dying off as our generation is..... :(

well im from a different generation and even i think its abit rich to hold a party and ask people to pay for food

[omega]

I was given an invatation to a Baby Shower today. It says:

"You are cordially invited to
A Baby Shower & Brunch
Sunday, October Twelfth
Two Thousand And Eight
Eleven Thirty A.M.
Lighthouse Point Yacht Club

Lunch $28.00 per person

RSVP: _____________
____________________
____________________

Baby is registered at
BabyLove.com and Babies R' Us"

I LEFT OUT the names to "protect" the people. :lol2:

PLEASE BE HONEST and tell me, have you EVER gotten an invatation and been asked to pay for your meal? This is totally new to me and I was stunned to say the least.

If you did get one, did you attend the event or not?

I am not sure I "belong" in today's new world.

Melanie


Now, now... you do belong in THIS part of this new world.:D What did we ever do without our computers?????;)

[omega]

well im from a different generation and even i think its abit rich to hold a party and ask people to pay for food

Does that mean you are in the generation older than Carol or the younger one?:D

What are baby showers like down under?

[tmt90]

Does that mean you are in the generation older than Carol or the younger one?:D

guess :D

[plumie]

Oh Carol I forgot to tell you I am inviting you over to my house but the dinner attendance will cost you $3,200 just make the check payable to Tammy Simon.;)


:lol2::lol2: I was like " wait a minute! I write a check to that name before. I keep repeating the name and than I realized its for Ta-Jon Maltese..LOL

OMG.. that was too funny Maggie!

[Zo zo's mom]

We were invited to a wedding reception once where we had to pay for the meal in advance.

I told Marco I thought that was so very tacky, but it was a close friend of his and I said, OK, we will attend the wedding, but not the reception. We had a good excuse too because it was the week we got the keys to our home and we had numerous renovations planned.

[omega]

guess :D

Ok, I am going to play it way safe here and say you are very...





YOUNG.:):D




(smart, too)

[omega]

:lol2::lol2: I was like " wait a minute! I write a check to that name before. I keep repeating the name and than I realized its for Ta-Jon Maltese..LOL

OMG.. that was too funny Maggie!

I was a bit confused but decided to ignore it cause I can only take so much confusion in one 24 hour period of time. :)

Although I am not quite as confuse as these Drs. are.

12606 :lol2::lol2:

[omega]

We were invited to a wedding reception once where we had to pay for the meal in advance.

I told Marco I thought that was so very tacky, but it was a close friend of his and I said, OK, we will attend the wedding, but not the reception. We had a good excuse too because it was the week we got the keys to our home and we had numerous renovations planned.

Wow. Pay for your meal at a wedding reception???? That's cutting edge, isn't it.

I am paying close attention to all of this because my son seems to think he will be getting married in the not too distant future. :)



YAY!!!!! I NEED grandbabies!!!! 12607

Oh yeah... I'll be inviting all you guys but you will have to pay for your own alcohol and chocolate. :lol2::D

[plumie]

I was a bit confused but decided to ignore it cause I can only take so much confusion in one 24 hour period of time. :)

Although I am not quite as confuse as these Drs. are.

12606 :lol2::lol2:

:lol2::lol2::lol2:
oh Teri I am so sorry to confused you.
Tammy Simon is Tajon Maltese.
Maggie is inviting Carol to her house for luncheon but she will have to write a check $3,200 and make it payable to Tammy Simon. LOL
Which happens to be Pani's breeder also.

ps.. Maggie, I had my eyes on her also. Shes adorable!

[Morkie4]

:lol2::lol2:
oh Teri I am so sorry to confused you.
Tammy Simon is Tajon Maltese.
Maggie is inviting Carol to her house for luncheon but she will have to write a check $3,200 and make it payable to Tammy Simon. LOL
Which happens to be Pani's breeder also.

ps.. Maggie, I had my eyes on her also. Shes adorable!

Maggie.........what date is it again????

I need to start saving "now!" .........yeah right and if you believe that then you must believe that12608

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[plumie]

Wow. Pay for your meal at a wedding reception???? That's cutting edge, isn't it.

I am paying close attention to all of this because my son seems to think he will be getting married in the not too distant future. :)



YAY!!!!! I NEED grandbabies!!!! 12607

Oh yeah... I'll be inviting all you guys but you will have to pay for your own alcohol and chocolate. :lol2::D

Sure... as long you pay for the flight and accommendations.
I dont mind bring my own drinks and chocolate.. turds from texas.

[plumie]

Maggie.........what date is it again????

I need to start saving "now!" .........yeah right and if you believe that then you must believe that12608

:lol2::lol2::lol2::lol2:

OMG.. those pigs scare me.:(

[Darlin Beauxs]

I have a situation just as tacky: Being asked, and expected, to throw a shower for a younger sister of a close friend. I got out of it, but that would be a whole, new post :)

They also requested potluck type dishes to be brought by all attending.

What happened to the baby showers with tuna sandwhiches, chips and dip, cake and punch? This was the shower I was begrudgingly willing to give, but when they started talking about hot wings, steak kabobs, etc...I ran.

[Darlin Beauxs]

I'm sorry I forgot to add my .02, Yes, I think it is tacky. I would probably send or drop off a gift with an explanation of why I wasn't attending.

[Vylula]

28 bucks for lunch and a gift! Nope...that isn't very practical for the guests, especially those on a tight budget but still want to give a nice gift to the mom to be.

L~

[MaxJack'sMom]

Never heard of it but I would just send a gift. If my family or close friend did this they would get a swift hit upside the head and get a "what are you thinking" look from us.
We always had house parties back in the olden days. We had finger snacking food and punch. We played games and gave prizes away.
For my son and daughter-in-law's shower I had it at a restaurant. I had shower favors and played a game where we set a timer to 4 minutes. When the timer went off that person whose gift was being opened won a brown paper bag with a clue on the outside about the prize inside. They weren't allowed to open it, because the next person who won could take that gift or keep theirs. At the end of the openings, they got to say what they thought it was. If they were correct they got to keep it, if they were wrong someone who didn't have a bag could try and take it. In the end, I had gone crazy with gifts, I made sure everyone got a bag:lol2:
I give really good showers.

[Miss Melanie]

You all made me laugh so hard, thank you.

You all also reminded me of the Baby Shower I was given when I was carrying Sara. My best friend, Sheila, who is VERY ill currently, called me.

I had just gone to bed, had my PJ's on and all, and heck it was ONLY 7:30 PM. I was just so tired. She told me, "grab your video camera and have Rocky bring you over, the lady that lives behind me is swimming nude in my pool!" I told her, "oh can't you just take photos of her with your camera?" And she just kept insisting I come over with the video camera. LUCKY ME she didn't give up.

I walked into her front door and almost fell over! There sat a room full of just about everyone I knew in Florida at that time. I could NOT believe it. THEN I asked, "what is everyone doing here? You didn't call everyone to see her swimming did you?" :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: Then everyone yelled at me "SURPRISE!" I was sooooooooooooo surprised, then highly taken aback that Sheila did this, I started to cry and could hardly stop. I KNOW I cried for at least 30 minutes. Then we all just laughed and laughed and laughed when my husband said, "what no nude lady in the pool to video tape?" :lol2: :tounge:

enJOY!
Melanie

[Morkie4]

You all made me laugh so hard, thank you.

You all also reminded me of the Baby Shower I was given when I was carrying Sara. My best friend, Sheila, who is VERY ill currently, called me.

I had just gone to bed, had my PJ's on and all, and heck it was ONLY 7:30 PM. I was just so tired. She told me, "grab your video camera and have Rocky bring you over, the lady that lives behind me is swimming nude in my pool!" I told her, "oh can't you just take photos of her with your camera?" And she just kept insisting I come over with the video camera. LUCKY ME she didn't give up.

I walked into her front door and almost fell over! There sat a room full of just about everyone I knew in Florida at that time. I could NOT believe it. THEN I asked, "what is everyone doing here? You didn't call everyone to see her swimming did you?" :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: Then everyone yelled at me "SURPRISE!" I was sooooooooooooo surprised, then highly taken aback that Sheila did this, I started to cry and could hardly stop. I KNOW I cried for at least 30 minutes. Then we all just laughed and laughed and laughed when my husband said, "what no nude lady in the pool to video tape?" :lol2: :tounge:

enJOY!
Melanie

What a great friend!!! That was a wonderful experience. . . . . . . . wish I had known you then!

So did you get photos of the nude swimmer????:confused::confused:





















Just kidding ! ! ! ! ..........I got it!:lol2::lol2::lol2:

[plumie]

What a great friend!!! That was a wonderful experience. . . . . . . . wish I had known you then!

So did you get photos of the nude swimmer????:confused::confused:
Just kidding ! ! ! ! ..........I got it!:lol2::lol2::lol2:

Carol.. are you sure it wasnt you???:D

[Miss Melanie]

Carol.. are you sure it wasnt you???:D

HAHAHA!

The lady that had lived behind Sheila, use to sunbath in the nude so it wasn't a LONG stretch to think she may be swimming in the nude in Sheila's pool. She was a wacky older woman... and when she passed away, she had left her home to a BIRD! Her stupid lawyer never understood she had named a bird as the "person" to have everything she left. DUHHHHHHH! :lol2:

Isn't life fun sometimes?
Melanie

[omega]

Carol.. are you sure it wasnt you???:D

That is EXACTLY what I was thinking!!!
12772

[omega]

[QUOTE=plumie;96796]:lol2::lol2::lol2:
oh Teri I am so sorry to confused you.
Tammy Simon is Tajon Maltese.
Maggie is inviting Carol to her house for luncheon but she will have to write a check $3,200 and make it payable to Tammy Simon. LOL
Which happens to be Pani's breeder also.

Thanks for TRYING to un-confuse me. :)

After extensive research, I feel like I am now in the loop. :lol2::lol2::tounge:

[bek74]

It was my sons and husbands birthday in July and family and friends were wanting to know what WE were doing for it, I said " nothing, much, we as a family are going out to the Hogs Breath cafe for dinner, your welcome to pay for your own meal and drinks and join us"

They all did. I brought a Birthday cake and shouted everyone their first round of drinks.

Their is now way I could afford to pay for everyone. This day and age things are expensive, the coat of raising a family is just through the roof.

I don't think it is tacky at all, if the guests can't understand that they simply can't afford to pay for everyone and don't want to pay, then don't go.

I think just because a person isn't financially well off and unable to pay for their feeds meals shouldn't mean they have to miss out on celebrating an event that is important to them with people they care about. Most friends should understand that.

[omega]

It was my sons and husbands birthday in July and family and friends were wanting to know what WE were doing for it, I said " nothing, much, we as a family are going out to the Hogs Breath cafe for dinner, your welcome to pay for your own meal and drinks and join us"

They all did. I brought a Birthday cake and shouted everyone their first round of drinks.

Their is now way I could afford to pay for everyone. This day and age things are expensive, the coat of raising a family is just through the roof.

I don't think it is tacky at all, if the guests can't understand that they simply can't afford to pay for everyone and don't want to pay, then don't go.

I think just because a person isn't financially well off and unable to pay for their feeds meals shouldn't mean they have to miss out on celebrating an event that is important to them with people they care about. Most friends should understand that.


Don't you think your situation was a little different? I mean, they asked YOU and wanted to be part of it at their own expense. (they must love you :hearter:) That worked out really well for you and your family.:)

[Miss Melanie]

It was my sons and husbands birthday in July and family and friends were wanting to know what WE were doing for it, I said " nothing, much, we as a family are going out to the Hogs Breath cafe for dinner, your welcome to pay for your own meal and drinks and join us"

They all did. I brought a Birthday cake and shouted everyone their first round of drinks.

Their is now way I could afford to pay for everyone. This day and age things are expensive, the coat of raising a family is just through the roof.

I don't think it is tacky at all, if the guests can't understand that they simply can't afford to pay for everyone and don't want to pay, then don't go.

I think just because a person isn't financially well off and unable to pay for their feeds meals shouldn't mean they have to miss out on celebrating an event that is important to them with people they care about. Most friends should understand that.

Bek, I feel so much like you do, and have been to birthday dinners just like you spoke about, but not been invited with a formal invatation like this before.

If you can't afford the event, why plan to have it at such an expensive place? Why not have the Shower at a home or other place that isn't so costly? I know the woman that is holding the Shower and I would bet she could get a nice room at her Church for a lot less. I also know the person this Shower is for and I KNOW for sure she could get a room at her Church for a whole lot less. Plus there are places around here dying for business that I would guess they could have gotten service at, for a lot less also.

I just was stunned when I opened this formal invatation.

I do have a gift for this person and will give it to her, however I am not attending the Shower. She is someone I know via business, not a personal friend so I was surprised to get the invatation to begin with, in more ways then one. :wink5:

Thank you everyone for your comments,
Melanie

[gypsyqueen]

When close family gathers there is no rules it is informal but on an invitation tacky hot dogs and burgers on a grill is resonable to host 28 dollars a head says I want the best and my guests should pay

[MalteseJane]

If you cannot afford a party, don't do a party. I think it's very tacky and I would not attend. They would even make me so mad with this that I would not even send a gift just because of it.

Beck, you did not invite your family and friends, they invited themself. This is different.

[Kanga]

This does seem to be the way things are being done, tacky or not, soon it will be the norm.

That said, not sure I would go, I would rather buy a more expensive gift than spend it on a lunch with ppl I really do not know well :o

[bek74]

If you cannot afford a party, don't do a party. I think it's very tacky and I would not attend. They would even make me so mad with this that I would not even send a gift just because of it.

Beck, you did not invite your family and friends, they invited themself. This is different.

:D Bek with out the "C" please. There is NO "C" in my name:D ReBEKah:D

I have had my name spelt wrong for YEARS so now I make a point to correct people.

Cheers:hearter:

[bek74]

This to to EVERYONE, so if your having a BBQ at your home with close friends and family, do you put EVERYTHING on, or do you ask them to bring anything??

Here is is VERY common for the guests to bring their own meet and grog and the host to put on everything else.

Just curious.

More and more people ask their close friends and family to pay their own way. I know of weddings where the guests pay a set price for their meals, like $28 a head.

When my husband and I got married we eloped, I just had a gutt full and I wasn't prepared to spend 10 grand on stuff and filling peoples gutts with food and grog (especially since I don't know or like more then half of the guest list, alot get invited to keep the peace when it comes to weddings).
Well hubby and I were going to go away to the Islands for 7days for our honeymoon anyway, so we decided to go for 10days instead and get married over there. I rung my best friend and told her what we were doing and I said " I would love you and hubby and the kids to come and spend the 3 days with us, but you will have to pay your way", she hung up, rung her hubby and then rung me straight back saying " Yes, she wouldn't miss it for the world" So we both agreed on a date allowing time for us all to save up the extra money.
My mother and partner came and Hubby's mother and father came and EVERYONE paid there own way and we had the most fantastic time EVER.
I know that is different to what is being discussed, but that would be the closest I have come to inviting people and not paying for them.

[bek74]

This does seem to be the way things are being done, tacky or not, soon it will be the norm.

That said, not sure I would go, I would rather buy a more expensive gift than spend it on a lunch with ppl I really do not know well :o

I agree, if I didn't know the person well and they weren't close to me, I wouldn't go either.
If it was someone I was close to and knew they couldn't afford, I would for sure go. Friends mean more to me than money.

[LuvMyMalt]

OMG - I've never heard of an invitation like that before. Like a lot of people said already, if I was really close to them or it was family, I'd probably do it.

IMHO, I think it's really tacky. People where I live get angry when it's a cash bar (especially if it's not said in the invitation) -- and they're being fed, have music, dancing, etc.